This I recall to my mind, therefore have I hope. It is of the Lord’s mercies that we are not consumed, because his compassions fail not. They are new every moring: great is thy faithfulness. The Lord is my portion saith my soul: therefore will I hope in him. The Lord is good unto them that wait for Him, to the soul that seeketh him. It is good that a man should both hope and quietly wait for the salvation of the LORD. Lamentations 3: 21-26

Tuesday, June 5, 2007

Works for Me Wednesday--Mom I'm Bored Edition

I don’t know that boredom is a summer issue in our home—oh it’s an issue, I just don’t know that it is limited to summer. As homeschoolers I think it could be a daily issue if allowed to be when we are—you know, actually home.

I think routine is a good thing in beating boredom. Routines can be changed often so they don’t become ruts, but a dependable framework is a good boredom beater. We school year round, taking mini-breaks, never longer than two weeks. After two weeks without some structure we all (even me) start falling apart and getting whiney. So that would be my first suggestion. Have a flexible schedule so that children know what to expect.

My boys don’t use the “bored” word often around me. Partly, I am sure, because I offer to give them something to do (work related) when I hear that word. Our issue seems more to be a narrow scope of what is the best entertainment. What I hear most often is, “Mom, can I use____?” Fill in appropriate electronic, passive equipment. So what is my answer? It varies.

For our question the first answer is most often, “No.” followed by silence on my part. And then, inevitably I will hear, “Well, what can I do?” And I offer several choices. My first is always reading. Sometimes I don’t offer the choices as much as recommend that they browse and decide on their own. Sometimes (sorry) I am a bit sarcastic and suggest a nap—I’d love one!!

Another suggestion is don’t over-schedule summer with activities. Allow a lot of free time to explore. I think kids are often just used to being dependant on a grown-up to tell them what they will do next. Creativity, the opposite of boring, involves thinking independently and if someone else wanted to do it for me all the time—I’d let them too!! It takes some getting used to thinking creatively, though. Some gentle (or forceful) nudging might be needed to start. We have two time consuming activities during the summer. One takes up four weeks for three hours each morning, during that time, other school work is limited. The second involves a week trip to visit family and a county fair. My sister homeschools her children and we make field trips a staple and it is a highlight of our summer—exhausting, but fun. But the rest of summer is light school, and much delight-led learning and free time, lots of free time. There is nothing wrong with a child laying in a hammock or in the grass and doing “nothing.” It is during those times of “nothingness” that many problems are pondered, growing is considered, or stories are created. Nothing is wrong with a little nothing.

My last suggestion is live with a few messes. My house will never, never grace Better Homes and Gardens or Martha. And it is small, incredibly small. But a friend did tell me she thought my house was comfortable. I’ll take that as a compliment. It is obvious my house has children in it. Part of that is because as they’ve grown I’ve left more and more things accessible to them. Books, games, toys (too many toys), art supplies, musical instruments, dress-up clothes. There’s a table set up in the yard for dinosaur dig kits, sports equipment to use. Inside the only limit to musical instruments is the time of day—we live in a duplex and drums are off limits after 9ish. Unless I want to wait on them things must be accessible. I think I will trade a spotless house for a little freedom—for all of us. Clean up is required at the end of most activities, but I’ve tried not to micro-manage that and appreciate honest hard work and true efforts.

I do have some activities planned, but I have learned to be flexible and realize that my boys just might have a better plan.

That’s what works for us. For more Works For Me Wednesday ideas visit Shannon at Rocks in My Dryer.

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9 comments:

Liza's Eyeview said...

Good reminder about "not over scheduling". Summer time is a time to "relax" :)

Bss said...

Sound like you all have a peaceful and relaxing summer ahead of you with just enough outside activities to break the monotony. That's what we're aiming for, too. My kids are not excited about schooling through the summer, but we didn't finish our work this year. Like you said, a routine is very helpful, and school will continue to be a part of that routine. For *my* sake more than theirs.

Oh, I would take a comfortable house over any other kind of house. If the family and guests aren't comfortable, they aren't going to be happy!

Irritable Mother said...

I appreciated your thoughts about creative thinking and the "OK-ness" of doing "nothing" sometimes. Personally, I have a tendancy to do too much and need to learn how to do "nothing" without feeling guilty!
Thanks for these thoughts!

Overwhelmed! said...

Excellent suggestions you offer here! I agree, doing "nothing" is okay too. There are days when we stay in our pjs until early afternoon and just hang out. That's nice sometimes.

Amberly said...

Great post! Have a fun summer!

Barbara H. said...

I agree with all of this. Like you, we don't deal with boredom quite so much as a lot of electronic entertainments -- not bad in itself -- but not want I want them to spend the whole summer doing. And I agree that lying outside looking at clouds is perfectly OK!

Great post.

His Girl said...

Great post! I especially like the reminder not to overschedule summer!

An Ordinary Mom said...

Great words of wisdom! I definitely agree that kids need some routine and structure, but they also need plenty of down time to explore.

A Juggling Mum said...

Great post, you have hit on some great points. I hope you have a great summer :)

Rachel xxx